Divorce without the Battle

There are fewer moments in a person’s life that are more challenging, more distressful or more defeating than a divorce. However, when these emotions take over they often interfere with the ultimate goal-finalization or getting to the other side. More specifically, the divorce will be dragged out and can impact the outcomes between the parties. In cases where there are children involved, the emotions of the parents will most certainly impact the children.

Separate the emotions from the process. Remember that getting to the finish line will allow the healing process to begin. Additionally, where there are children involved in the process, keeping the children free from the emotional harm and distress will heavily impact time sharing arrangements and minimize the long-term trauma children will suffer.

Accomplishing this is easier said than done with a difficult and unreasonable spouse who seemingly intentionally seeks confrontation. Don’t get dragged down. Finalizing the divorce is the first step toward freedom from the situation. Help yourself and your attorney get to the end goal by taking notes. Document your spouses behavior. This helps you take control of the situation and will help you recall the necessary details when needed. This will also help your lawyer with knowing what to ask for throughout the case. This is when it is critical to take the high road and not react. No matter how difficult, walk away rather than react. Just as it takes two to be married it also takes two to do battle. Divorce is your pathway to being just one or a “single” so start living as one throughout the process. Take control of your journey and free yourself from the weight of the divorce and your spouses emotions.